Since I fell behind, I figured it would be easiest to catch up my combining 2 posts - thankfully that worked out well, because I feel like the challenge topics for days 21 and 22 are related - tips and tricks for keeping marriage fun, and reasons why I love my husband.
Dealing with infertility can really mess up a marriage. We've been really lucky in that we've gotten closer despite the struggle, but that doesn't make it any less difficult to keep our marriage fun and exciting. It feels like recently we've been in a bit of a rut, so honestly I could really use some tips to spice up our marriage a little. We weren't expecting to have to pay for a surgery, and all of these monitoring appointments add up - our bank account is getting angry with us, so we've had to cut back on our usual dates of shopping and movies. I'm hoping to make our marriage more fun and exciting by trying to change our routine. Weeknights are tricky because B is usually pretty tired when he gets home from work, but we have no excuse for lazing about on the weekends. When we don't go to movies or go shopping, we usually spend all day on the sofa watching TV, and that just gets boring after a while. I have a bunch of cheap or free at-home or local date ideas saved on Pinterest, we really should try some of those ideas to bring a little fun back into our lives. We do have a few fun things coming up - our friends' wedding and a concert - so that should bring a little more excitement also. Maybe we'll plan a random adventure soon too. Adventures are great. :)
B is also great (see what I did there? That was a smooth transition). He's the type of guy who sees good in pretty much everyone - it takes a lot to get on his bad side. He has a great sense of humor - he's sarcastic, witty, and sometimes really out-there and silly, and it's one of his best traits. He does a great job of changing the mood in crappy/awkward/whatever situations. I also think his passion (sometimes obsession) for his hobbies is really awesome. It can be annoying at times - would it kill him to not be on his laptop and iPad while we're watching TV together?? - but he has so many interests he's constantly multi-tasking to keep up with them. I'm actually kind of jealous of how many interests he has. He is a very talented writer even though he doesn't have a lot of confidence in his work, and I wish he would get back into writing more frequently. He loves sports, especially baseball and wrestling (and sometimes basketball), and he loves movies. He tries to watch every single movie that comes out each year (with a few exceptions, he has some standards haha). Every week, he and his friend record a podcast about important geek news - new TV shows, what's getting canceled, reviews of movies and what's coming out that week, comic book and food reviews, new video games, cool stuff from the Internet, and so on. He always enjoys doing the research and looking for cool new things to talk about in each episode, and he writes show notes for the blog when the episode is posted - I think the podcast might be one of his favorite things to do. B also has a really great work ethic. Whether he's working on his actual work or working on podcast things, he gives everything 100% - he's not the type of guy to half-ass things (except maybe helping with chores. That he tries to wiggle out of sometimes). He has a lot of really great traits and interests that I hope he'll pass on to our future kids.
With good husbands, we have MUCH to be thankful for. Seriously, throughout this journey I go back to that. So many people have bad relationships, or no relationship. So grateful we have good guys to get us through these hard times.
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